Dating with a shy personality can definitely present you with more challenges than you would have if you were more outgoing. Having said that, though, doesn’t mean that you have to give up. You can still have a fun dating life even if you are shy and it takes you time to open up.
I think that there are several changes that have come about in the last few years that actually make it much easier dating with a shy personality.
Things like online dating sites, Twitter, Facebook, and texting are just a few examples of the things that can make it easier for you to meet and get to know others in a less stressful way.
That little bit of anonymity can make it easier for you to let a little bit of yourself show slowly and over time.
It can definitely be more of a challenge to know what to say when you are talking to someone on the phone than it would be to have a texting conversation.
When you are texting you will have much more time trying to think of what you want to say then you would if you were actually talking to each other. That can really take a lot of the pressure off.
Using an online dating site can also help because you can target the type of people you want to meet and also let them know a little bit more about you.
Filling out your profile and saying that you are a little shy can definitely make it easier to avoid any misunderstanding when you first meet.
Sometimes, a shy personality can come across as being arrogant or rude. This can really be a common misunderstanding if you are also very good looking.
In that case it can be very easy for someone just meeting you to get the wrong impression if you are kind of quiet and reserved.
But, when you say right up front in your profile that you are a little shy and reserved then anyone meeting you will already have that expectation and it’s very unlikely they will read more into than they should.
Also, if you prefer to date others who are also a little on the shy side, you will have the opportunity to specify that when you fill out your profile.
And once you do meet someone you can use these different technologies to get to know them at a more leisurely pace. Again, just like with texting, this ability to take it slow and get to know their personality before you actually meet can take a lot of the pressure off of both of you.
I know the son of a friend of mine is very shy and he loved the idea of getting to know the girls he met online slowly and by instant messaging.
He said that it just made it easier to get to know them with out the „distraction“ of looks. That is a very valid point. We often get side tracked with the „chemistry“ when we meet someone. Chemistry is a great thing to have but it can get in the way of getting to know someone on a deeper level too.